We often tell ourselves (and others) that we are doing “good,” but what does that actually mean? We outwardly act as if everything is perfect in order to save ourselves the trouble of having to let others into our personal life. When asked how we are, our default response is always “good” or “fine” because we don’t want to trouble others with the details of how we might not be happy.
…OR IS IT MORE SO DUE TO US NOT WANTING TO COME FACE TO FACE WITH OUR OWN PROBLEMS?
The moment that we admit that something is not quite right, then there is something that we actually have to work on. Why are we so afraid of admitting our faults (even to ourselves) when that is actually the only way we can start to fix things? Something feeling off is not a sign of something being broken and unable to be fixed. Something feeling off is a sign that there is progress to be made!
- When we are hungry—> WE NEED FOOD
- When we are thirsty—> WE NEED WATER
- When we are cold—> WE NEED WARMTH
- When we are hot—> WE NEED TO COOL OFF
- When we are tired—> WE NEED REST
We don’t see these things as problems because we know how to fix them. We were taught how to fix them at a very young age (hopefully). The problem that we encounter is when we start to realize that we are not happy… many of us weren’t taught how to find our own happiness because, for plenty of us, it was not properly modeled.
So how do we figure this out?