Sending All Positive Energy Out To You

Within the last few months, I have been through more changes than I had ever anticipated. I don’t do well with the unexpected, but I’ve made it through and I’m trying to make sure that I firmly plant my feet on the ground as I move through this new year.

I’ve faced certain fears head on… and what life repeatedly keeps telling me is that things are never as daunting as we initially make them out to be in our minds. We constantly fear this great “unknown” when it comes to love, our ambitions, work, progressing with our dreams… Basically, every aspect of life that you can think of, we can figure out a way to convince ourselves that we don’t deserve what we actually want and dream of… I’ve grown tired of that type of mentality though. It doesn’t get us anywhere.

I know what I want.

I’ve got such a detailed picture of what I want to accomplish at this point in my life and just within the last few months, I have been able to obtain the things that I have set my mind to work toward. Some things take longer than others and will require more patience, but when you feel something is worth the wait… you just do it. The pay off will be much greater and sweeter in the end because the things that take some time, you will cherish more so as well.

As long as I know that I am working toward something, I can continue pressing forward. I just refuse to be stagnant. I refuse to feel stuck.  I refuse to settle for less.

January – I moved to a new apartment that actually feels more like a home than any other place I have lived in.

February – I interviewed for a new job, I was offered the position, and I passed all clearances for my new role to start in March.

I will be doing my best to make sure the rest of my year is a fruitful as the beginning and I will be sending out all the positive energy I can back out so that those I encounter in any arena also find themselves motivated to shoot for the stars…

Because even if we fall the first few times we try, we can continue to use everything we experience to get back up and try another way. There will always be another way as long as we are willing to keep trying.

Join me on this journey,

RubyTHEEninja

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3 Steps To Happiness.

THE PROBLEM:

We often tell ourselves (and others) that we are doing “good,” but what does that actually mean? We outwardly act as if everything is perfect in order to save ourselves the trouble of having to let others into our personal life. When asked how we are, our default response is always “good” or “fine” because we don’t want to trouble others with the details of how we might not be happy.

…OR IS IT MORE SO DUE TO US NOT WANTING TO COME FACE TO FACE WITH OUR OWN PROBLEMS?

The moment that we admit that something is not quite right, then there is something that we actually have to work on. Why are we so afraid of admitting our faults (even to ourselves) when that is actually the only way we can start to fix things? Something feeling off is not a sign of something being broken and unable to be fixed. Something feeling off is a sign that there is progress to be made!

  • When we are hungry—> WE NEED FOOD
  • When we are thirsty—> WE NEED WATER
  • When we are cold—> WE NEED WARMTH
  • When we are hot—> WE NEED TO COOL OFF
  • When we are tired—> WE NEED REST

We don’t see these things as problems because we know how to fix them. We were taught how to fix them at a very young age (hopefully). The problem that we encounter is when we start to realize that we are not happy… many of us weren’t taught how to find our own happiness because, for plenty of us, it was not properly modeled.

So how do we figure this out?

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The 3 Steps To Get What You Want.

THE PROBLEM:

Did your first second of consciousness for the day involve struggling to reach over and snooze an alarm? Did you lay there with the lights off and your eyes closed, hoping that somehow the next 9 minutes lasted an extra hour instead?

I think the majority of us are guilty of this on a way too frequent basis.

We go to sleep too late because we are up doing things that have no real benefit when it comes to our long-term goals. We spend hours mindlessly distracted from actually living life. We fool ourselves into thinking that we are “relaxing” and “taking a break” when in reality, we are just making things harder for ourselves in the long run. We consistently settle for less or “good enough” with the hope that one day we will get what we think we deserve… but how will we actually get there if the time that we could dedicate to taking the necessary steps is used for “taking a break” instead.

THAT IS HOW WE REMAIN STUCK IN MEDIOCRE.

Time slips through our fingers so easily. The older we get, the faster it goes. Yet we constantly tell ourselves that we have all the time in the world. We try to distract ourselves with one thing or another in order to make ourselves feel better about the lack of progress that we make. We constantly strive to find ways in which we can close our eyes to the things that would otherwise force us to finally move.

We are uncomfortable when we are unhappy, but if we consistently distract ourselves from the discomfort we should feel, WE WILL NEVER DO ANYTHING TO CHANGE IT.

For most, if we continued doing what we do every single day… we would still be doing that same thing, in the same place, feeling the same way 10 years from now.

So how do we get what we want?

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