Sending All Positive Energy Out To You

Within the last few months, I have been through more changes than I had ever anticipated. I don’t do well with the unexpected, but I’ve made it through and I’m trying to make sure that I firmly plant my feet on the ground as I move through this new year.

I’ve faced certain fears head on… and what life repeatedly keeps telling me is that things are never as daunting as we initially make them out to be in our minds. We constantly fear this great “unknown” when it comes to love, our ambitions, work, progressing with our dreams… Basically, every aspect of life that you can think of, we can figure out a way to convince ourselves that we don’t deserve what we actually want and dream of… I’ve grown tired of that type of mentality though. It doesn’t get us anywhere.

I know what I want.

I’ve got such a detailed picture of what I want to accomplish at this point in my life and just within the last few months, I have been able to obtain the things that I have set my mind to work toward. Some things take longer than others and will require more patience, but when you feel something is worth the wait… you just do it. The pay off will be much greater and sweeter in the end because the things that take some time, you will cherish more so as well.

As long as I know that I am working toward something, I can continue pressing forward. I just refuse to be stagnant. I refuse to feel stuck.  I refuse to settle for less.

January – I moved to a new apartment that actually feels more like a home than any other place I have lived in.

February – I interviewed for a new job, I was offered the position, and I passed all clearances for my new role to start in March.

I will be doing my best to make sure the rest of my year is a fruitful as the beginning and I will be sending out all the positive energy I can back out so that those I encounter in any arena also find themselves motivated to shoot for the stars…

Because even if we fall the first few times we try, we can continue to use everything we experience to get back up and try another way. There will always be another way as long as we are willing to keep trying.

Join me on this journey,

RubyTHEEninja

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3 Steps To Love in 2018.

THE PROBLEM:

What exactly is the problem with love?

It’s one of the main forces that drive us as we move through life. Yet somehow we spend most of our adult lives trying to figure out how to love and be loved.

And yes, both are necessary.

We grow up with different ideas constantly thrown at us about what love should be. We see it on our television and movies, we hear about it in our music, we read about in our literature… I think it’s safe to say that humans have been obsessed with the subject since the beginning of time.

Obsessed, but also oblivious at times.

We have even gone as far as to figure out formulas, tests, and charts that might get us closer to cracking the code, but things fail regardless of how “compatible” people might initially be. Now, to top it all off, we have added social media and constant unrealistic comparisons/expectations to the non-existent equation that we have come to call “love.”

We have a stream of constant “picture perfect” data fed to us from all social media platforms and most of our social interactions as well. People try to put their best foot forward when in public and because everyone else is doing it too, no one really thinks that people have arguments or struggles like they do. We feel alone when we have disagreements and therefore our fuses are shorter, we blow up in ways that make matters worse, and we cease to see the point in continuing to choose them.

Or we can do the opposite (and possibly the most damaging) by actually disregarding the constant fights and lack of trust/respect because we romanticise the momentary good that we experience. We live through the experiences that we post on social media or when we are out in public and fail to acknowledge the wounds that never even begin to get a chance to heal prior to the next damaging outburst.

We stay in damaging relationships for far too long because we are afraid to be alone… only to realize that the longer we stay, the harder it also becomes to heal from the trauma that is caused. We get in relationships that will distract us from the healing process… we take them on as projects, but then we realize that we are now the one causing the trauma to someone else due to the pain that we still experience.

It’s a vicious cycle of pull and push, and we want what we cant have.

When we have something good, we don’t want it because we find something to miss… we can always find something more to want. When we have something bad, we just can’t seem to give up because we have to convince them of our worth before we go (and rarely will you).

We base things on the superficial and on the temporary. We look with our eyes, but not with our hearts… and much less our minds.

So where do we go from here?… when it seems like all the odds are stacked up against us.

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